Love or bread

should we get married to either a magnate without love or a penniless man full of love? 

all morning, anne contradicted everything i said :)) our quarrel was rather serious but we rarely lapse into a sulky silence for long because we've been best friends since elementary school, and definitely understood each other so well that nothing can change even if our words were too harsh... :p just different perception!

by the time we were merely such innocent pupils who would spend hours per day watching romantic korean dramas on tv, reading a thousand of soppy chinese books and even visualizing a gorgeous picture of marriage in pink like a fairy tale. for the question above, all of us might not hesitate to say "a penniless man full of love" =)) what little girls thought!

however, time changes and we have grown up. most of my friends has turned their minds to another better conception while i'm still sticking to what i chose - a penniless man with a determined mind :p 

it would be dreadfully tragic to get engage to a magnate, left in a haunted mansion, thrown at your face every month a wad of paper money then suffer with clinical detachment, confront with countless mistresses of the man you call "husband" or simply he only shows up once or twice a month for his constant business trips. at that time, will you satisfy with jewelry, swanky dresses and high heels, cars, houses blah blah in a total blank heart?

it is undeniable that i love money, too...but not in a way that i'm willing to "sell happiness" to "buy money" :) a penniless man seems incapable to supply me what i want, but he is he man who will light up the flame in our little family, ensure endless happiness for me, the man who will put non-stop effort in earning money as well as taking every responsibility for his loved ones. honestly, i admire men who regard his family upon his career :p sounds very cheap, eh? but it's my opinion. and yup, although he's penniless, he will succeed, to my belief, in his business someday and i promise, through thick and think i will also be there with him and patiently wait for him.

anne supposed that i was too naive and dreamy =)) since the whole damn world is turning into a practical life while there is such an idiot like me existing on earth :)) our difference of points of view were obvious but okay, i won't judge and won't get upset either :p

to digress a little, i watched a comedrama "Những mảnh tình" performed by my favourite  well-known married artists overseas quang minh and hong dao. its main content told about the disruption of a marriage due to the fact that the wife as a excellent doctor was too busy to take a good care of her husband, a lonesome man who lacked love from his wife and even nursed a complex about his lower social position, decided to have an affair - a young and gullible singer believing and devoting all her pure love to him without knowing his marital status. well, i shouldn't spoil here. just drop some thoughts...

what if my husband have a affair? personally i will forgive him for once :) he abandoned me for reasons and by some way,yet at least he has learned what and who is the most important in his life, thus he wishes to come back and makes up for his mistakes...why should i keep hatred and torture myself while i still love him? for what? for pride :)) would i be able hold the pride forever? otherwise, he left me for the girl and never returns? oh that kind of man is not worth my tears nor pains and i should be glad to get rid of such a mean man this soon :p easy said than done, i'm not sure if i shall behave exactly what i have just written but this is the wisest way to tackle in a stable mind.

just kidding =)) i probably commit to be single or a single mom in the future ha ha who knows! 

here is the link. it's worth your time! sorry for not having english subtitle =.="

much love,

hal

xoxo