I just had an amazing summer holiday from June 6nd to June 12th in Saigon and a few more days in An Giang. They said “Traveling forms a young man” :)) These are lessons that I learned from the trip and I would like to save for myself in the future.
1. Never talk about someone either good or bad things behind her/his back. Even if I really want to tell my story which is relevant to the person, I’d rather use pronouns instead of using names and giving so much information about the person without his/her permission.
2. “Empty vessels make the most noise” – I don’t want to judge but it was such an interesting experience when I had to spend almost one hour listening to a stranger’s advice about my life when she indeed had no idea about my identity, my personal things and never even asked me questions to understand me more.
Her assumptions about me were so “wow” that I kept smiling, nodding and pretending to be dumb. To be honest, she was quite nice and friendly to me. I bet most customers would like this kind of service but me…no thanks :’(
3. Sympathize with Angelique more and no longer mention her name in any conversations with friends – I think I become more understanding when I have to face more and more dramas like she did in the past. She was so young at that time, never practiced. It would be unfair to expect her to be calm and well-behaved when her mental health was also a problem.
I decided to shut down my page on facebook to avoid all the bullshits that mad followers may throw at me in an instant moment, and of course this was also a part of my plan. Having a page that you never update is far worse than having no page at all and I should not repeat old contents all over again to attract more followers while they are no longer as quality as they used to be.
One more important reason: I’d like to write in English and have a tendency to focus more on myself and nourish my soul instead of pleasing others out there. One year and half seem to be enough for me so far.
4. Even if you are ready for something, it doesn’t mean your emotions do.
One of the best experiences I have ever had is the game “Escape room” in Saigon with my blue girls. Of course, to such a girl who have been watching a thousand horror movies and spending most of my energy to discover and learn more about spiritual subjects, I didn’t feel scared much as coming to the “haunted house”. I told myself a million times that was all just fake, nothing was going to hurt me.
Yup, however, I was a little bit out of my mind when there was someone suddenly jumping in and shouting at me. I started to realize that I was not that much afraid of scary things but surprises since your emotions and feelings were not ready for them at all no matter how much efforts I told myself about artificial scenes before coming to the room.
The scary sound effects, power cut, old things, etc. didn’t bother me but the surprises did =)) Oh so what if the death comes to me so suddenly, would I be aware enough to nianfo and think of Pusa? This question always pops in my head :’(
5. You are no longer compatible even if your love is still there – Yes, I can’t agree more with ending a relationship due to incompatibility. I met few previous friends and we couldn’t find any common subjects to talk somehow. I still miss them and consider them as friends but if going further together, I don’t think so ☹
It makes sense that some men can’t keep the relationship with their women even they have been together for so many years. Many years don’t guarantee anything, bae. When you grow up, you must make sure your direction and the partner’s direction be the same. Otherwise, you both are growing apart and one day you would realize that you no longer can be together no matter how many sweet memories in the past you have…
-Hal
